| Boyfriend love and housing drama. Woo. |
[22 Apr 2009|07:57am] |
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Mark told me last night that I mean a lot to him, and that he's sick and tired of seeing me pushed around and abused just because I don't want to be confrontational or am too nice to stand up against people sometimes. He went on to tell me that any time I stand up for something, or am scared, or am thinking that I can't do it, he'll be there behind me.
God that made me cry.
No one I talk to understands that this is something I've never really had before.
I'm so happy.
So housing was a mess.
I'd asked before it was time to sign up if I should drop out of the group because I might be transferring. I wasn't sure if that would create an issue, which is why I asked Dominique. She said they'd just go ahead anyway, and that I could sign up with them and it wouldn't be a problem.
So this weekend she contact me to say that we have a problem if I transfer, and that they'd need to find someone with my housing points, and there were only 40 people who fit the criteria. I asked, again if I should drop out of it and got NO response.
Yesterday, at almost 5PM, I found out that they went and signed up for a three-person house. They knew about it as of that morning and no one told me.
Why is this a problem?
Open housing registration started yesterday. If they had told me about it in the morning, I could have still gotten a housing appointment yesterday with any luck, which is when I would have been going most likely.
Even if they didn't know there was going to be a problem beforehand, they knew yesterday morning that they were getting something that didn't include me. And no one bothered telling me until Nicole said "So did they get in touch with you?" that night.
It's MORE than just common courtesy to say "Hey, you need to find a place to live next year!"
How the hell is it okay to ensure they get something, but let me find out on my own? They clearly were able to message Nicole to tell her what was going on, since she said she had a message about it before noon. So why didn't anyone contact me?
Fortunately Zach Brown (the guy in charge of housing) e-mailed me back and said to come to his office OR open housing as soon as I'm able, and we'll find something for me. I'm going to go before housing though, because I'd prefer to try to squeeze into one of the last singles in Saxton. I'm going to go before work.
The fact of the matter is it's not cool.
I asked twice, including once after it was clear there was an issue - opportune time to say "Yeah, maybe you should try to find something yourself."
Then they had plenty of opportunity to let me know after they found out that they were going to do something else.
I'm fine with working out my own situation. I was fine if they needed me to go. I was fine if they were gonna have to find something else without me.
That's okay.
But not even bothering to say anything to me isn't. That's just as unfair as if I were to have waited until now to start the transfer process and let it just get back to them.
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| Friendslist cleanup. |
[09 Jan 2009|12:39pm] |
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I made two resolutions this year that influence this: One is to clean up my life a little, and the other is to not be such a pushover and to stop keeping people around just to avoid seeming bitchy.
I rarely ever do this. The only times I've cut people in the past it's been for personal issues where they really did need to not be able to see anything of mine, or for dead journals.
I didn't remove too many people, and NONE of my current actual friends.
If you were taken off, it's for one of two reasons:
1) You haven't updated or seemingly been around for 6 or more months AND I don't know you personally or in real life. If you do come back and see this, please let me know. It's not a matter of "yeah, you don't update - BYE". I just want to keep things clean and getting rid of dead accounts sometimes proves a good idea since some of them never come back.
2) I have to be honest when I say there are some people who I was friends with in highschool or for a little while after who have constantly pissed me off, been annoying, or severely disappointed me in some way. I spent years dealing with fights caused by the stupidest things, or hearing about friends who I care about very much dealing with something ridiculous, and if there's no reason for me to maintain any sort of connection, then I'm not going to waste my time.
I don't really care anymore and I'm assuming they don't either.
Have a nice life and all that.
This is in no way meant to be passive-aggressive or anything. Anyone who wants to talk to me SHOULD have my contact information and can ask anything or let me know if maybe they are still around and just on posting hiatus or something.
This is just the easiest way to let everyone know at once.
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| *~Friends Only~* |
[14 Sep 2008|09:39pm] |
♥ FRIENDS ONLY ♥
Rules:
o1♥ Respect my privacy and I will respect yours. Never share my journal or what's said in it.
o2♥ I don't argue viciously. If you disagree with me, that's fine. But we all have our own opinions and we all have the capability of being wrong. I never am disgusted at different viewpoints, but it's all in the delivery.
o3♥ My journal is often my venting place. If I'm bitchy or angry, it's not meant offensively toward anyone who has access. I won't attack someone else in their journal even if they do piss me off, so I do expect the same treatment. We all need places to overreact sometimes.
o4♥ Let me know if you're removing me! I prefer to keep semi-clean friends-lists and it will give me a heads up so I can remove you as well.
o5♥ I am NOT reciprocating friends requests from people whom I do not know personally. If you know me personally and wish to add me, please contact me over AIM, Gaia, etc from the account I know you on (or even the phone if applicable) and let me know what your username is there. A simple comment won't do it without proof.
This is not meant to be offensive in any way. I've just had some drama issues and would like to be sure that anyone gaining access to my LiveJournal is not only trustworthy, but legitimate.
Sorry for the inconvenience! :)
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| The final public entry: |
[07 Sep 2008|08:54pm] |
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I'm going to be changing the way my journal runs a bit.
♥ Apparently I have a Livejournal stalker of my own reading this now and therefore I will be going friends-only for the most part. It's unfortunate, as I have some friends who don't have LiveJournal, but who do read this. But in the end I made a decision based on the fact that while this person isn't enough for me to worry about, they are rather annoyingly persistent with anything they find out or think they have found out and this has included many things that were not even true.
So to avoid the sillier side of things, I'm just going to remove my thoughts from view as putting them in the open seems to give a rise.
I am also going back to friends-lock any entries containing anything related to drama, screennames, anything about any of my relationships, or anything containing the name of a city or town near where I live, for personal safety, because I do feel quite a bit creeped out by this.
♥ I will not be adding anyone I don't know personally and closely from now on, and if someone claiming to be one of my close friends does join or ask me to add them, please don't be offended when I ask for proof that it really is said person. Obviously I would rather not unintentionally let in someone who is pretending to be someone else.
♥ There won't be a friends cut, BUT... I have talked to the person who shared the link to my LiveJournal and while they say they did it before anything started, what matters most to me is that someone who is not trustworthy is still coming and reading it, and that it never should have been shared in the first place. Nothing should even ever be quoted to someone, but if you must break my trust, for god's sake just show the statement instead of linking to the entire journal, because this is what happens when someone keeps coming back, and it is a bit annoying. However, this person knows who they are, and therefore if you're thinking "... is this about me?" the answer is no, but there will be issues if I find out about this going on again. Especially now that I'm going friends-only - because showing anyone who is not on my friends-list an entry that shouldn't be visible to them is really, really low.
I would apologize preemptively in case I've made assumptions I shouldn't, but theoretically if the person I'm certain has been stalking my journal hasn't been, then they wouldn't be reading this in order to be offended regardless.
I feel like this was a necessary statement on my part.
Fortunately I said it much more diplomatically than I would've liked to.
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